New Reflections Coaching and Counseling Services,
Francoise Mastroianni, LCPC.,CCSAS.,CPTS.,EFT., SEP.
A two day Couple Intensive serving couples that have been impacted by sexual addiction and traumatized in the aftermath of a discovery/disclosure.
Prior to the Intensive : Prior to arriving at the Two Day Couple Intensive, the process begins with an introductory phone call with each partner, following up with another call to each partner regarding any assignments that the Intensive requires for success and honesty. Through this important step, my hope is to establish a comfortable relationship and develop an understanding of a couple's particular background and where they are in the process recovery and restoration. This pre-introductory is valuable work, as it allows a couple to be better prepared for the Intensive and the intensity and trauma regarding the sexual addiction induced trauma.
What to Expect at the Couple Intensive : As a certified sexual addiction specialist and certified partner trauma specialist my goal is to design your Intensive Weekend according to your unique needs, and work as a team treating the addict, partner and the coupleship.
Individual and couple's counseling combined with experiential exercises that address the core issues of the attachment injury and proceeds to escalate the underlying emotions of loss and fear. As an emotional Focused Therapist, I will also be addressing and identifying negative interaction cycles and positions in that cycle, such as a withdrawer or pursuer. Your treatment also includes how we develop patterns of trauma reactions. As a Somatic experiencing Practitioner, we will look at how your body holds the trauma and how you can expand your range of functionality in the aftermath of the rupture that sexual addiction has induced, and provide a road map that will equip you and help you navigate the healing process.
During and prior to the Intensive you and your spouse will receive the equivalent of over 25 hours of intense therapy in a clinical setting.
• An understanding of the Multidimentional Trauma Model
• An understanding of the Partner Trauma Model
• Identifying negative interactions and positions that escalate the sexual addiction induced trauma
• How to regulate activation and integrate aspects of self awareness
• Tools to apply for safety and recovery
• Setting Boundaries
• Grieving the loss, the past, the present, and the future losses, your new reality
• Rebuilding the trust
• Healthy Intimacy
How to move forward with or without...
What about forgiveness?
If your intention is to go through a formal therapeutic disclosure, there will be prep work before our scheduled ICW. Whether your local or not, we will set up several appointments in office or via phone to get the process started, and talk through the steps of writing your disclosure, her questions, and a polygragh. I will email you forms to fill out prior to the weekend, addresssing the issues of a disclosure and a time line of your sexual history, also as it relates to emotional injuries and wounds in your life. I will guide you both through your process, and sometimes it takes several drafts. This is an extremely important part of the recovery, and healing work you both need in order to decide how to move forward. Symbolically it can represent the new reality, no lies, no deceit, truth and honesty in the new marriage….Safety, security, and attunement, and that at its very best is empathy, a practice not known to many. It’s mindful and purposes the gift of fully knowing and being known.
• Your therapist will receive a report of our work in order to continue and expand your capacity to heal and enlarge your ability to reconstruct the wounds of sexual addiction.
The cost for the 25 hour/2 Day Intensive is $3,500.00
attachment_1.mp3 Recording of a testimony.
Intake for Couples Intensive
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What best describes your current relationship? - ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Do you struggle or have you struggled with compulsive sexual behavior?-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
What was the first time you noticed you had a problem with sexual compulsivity? –Please include a brief sexual history.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
What measures are you willing to take for the sake of the relationship and your partner’s emotional safety? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Are you willing to take a polygraph and why not if your answer is no----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
You can copy, paste and mail this document/application to:
Francoise Mastroianni
29W335 Renouf Dr
Warrenville,Il. 60555
If you decide to work with New Reflections Clinical Services a $500.00 deposit is required upon application.
Visa/MasterCard is accepted
Phone consultation/screening prior to final commitment is at no cost.
The Couples Intensive weekend is for couples that are struggling in their relationship, whether it's an intimacy disorder, sexual addiction, emotional attachment issues, the weekend is designed to meet your specific needs. Please call New Reflections Coaching and Counseling Services 630-346-9266 to find out more about healing and recovery in the most important relationship you have.