History and Philosophy of Your Emotions
Anger
What is the history of your experience with the emotion of anger? Could you tell could you tell if your parents were angry? what was this experience like for you?
How did they react to your anger? What was it like in your Family growing up??
Sadness
What is the history of your experience with the emotion of sadness? Could you tell if your parents were sad
What was this experience like for you? Could your parents tell
if you were sad? How did they react to your sadness? What was it like in your family growing up?
Fear
What is the history of your experience with the emotion of fear?
How did your family spond when you felt insecure? Could you tell if your parents were afraid?
What was this is experience like for you? Could your parents tell if you were afraid or worried?
How did they react to your fears? How do you deal with one another’s worries and
fears in this marriage or partnership? hat was it like in your family growing up?
Love
what at is the history of your experience with the emotion of love? How did you parents
show you that they loved you? Was your family growing up very affectionate?
What was this experience like for you? Could your parents tell if you needed affection?
How did they react to your need for affection and love? How do you show each other
that you love one another in this relationship? What was it like in your family growing up?
Pride
What is the history of your experience with the emotion of pride?
How did your parents show you that they were proud of you? Could you tell if your parents were proud of your a accomplishments
What was this experience like for you? Could your your parents tell if you wanted them to be proud of youyou wanted them to be proud of you
How did they react to your achievements anachievements and triumphs
How does your partner express pride in you?
Do you express pride in your partner?
What was it like in your family growing up?
What is your philosophy about expressing negative
emotion? What was it like in your family growing up?
Are there differences between you and your spouse in the expression and experience of emotion
What role do these differences play in your relationship
Taken from spouses of sex addicts healing and recovery workbook,Françoise Mastroianni
Used by permission John Gotman
