Terry Crews spoke out in his book, Manhood, about how he was addicted to pornography since he was 12 years old and how it deeply affected his marriage. In the excerpt below from an interview with the Tom Joyner Morning Show to promote his book, Crews and his wife of 25 years, Rebecca, talked openly about the effects it had on their life together. Check out two questions from the interview below:
Terry, did you have a collection or was it just online?
Online. It wasn’t a collection, I was smart enough not to keep anything in the house… I (was) suffering from something. I was a loving father, husband, the whole thing, but in the back of my mind I needed something like pornography just to chill. It’s almost like not admitting you’re an alcoholic or something like that. But the thing is you can’t live in two worlds and I was getting farther and farther away from Rebecca. Pornography is an intimacy killer. It just started building up a wall. A lot of people get divorced and they don’t even understand how the separation began. It wasn’t that she caught me. She was like, ‘Something is wrong with you,’ and I finally had to admit it was a problem… I realized I couldn’t stop.
Rebecca, did you feel pressured to step up the intimacy because of it?
Porn is a fantasy. You know, I’ve had five kids, so there were times we weren’t intimate. The issue was his desires for me were based on this fantasy. He would behave very strangely in bed. I can recall times feeling like ‘What are you doing,’ like he was trying to manipulate me a little bit or make me behave like the women in the porn. He had this fixed fantasy about what [sex] should be. Some of it was in his over-watching it, you don’t even want a real person. A real person can never match up to a fantasy.
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