How is your "Start-up" with one another, do you move toward or away from your partner?

As a trained level 2 Gottman therapist, I really appreciate his research and tools that are available for couples, take a look at the assessment below and see how you fare in moving towards or away from your partner.

Turning Towards or Away
Read each statement and fill in the appropriate TRUE or FALSE bubble.
TRUE or FALSE

1. We enjoy doing even the smallest things together, like folding laundry or watching TV.
T.O
F.O

2. I look forward to spending my free time with my partner.
T.O
F.O

3. At the end of a day my partner is glad to see me.
T.O
F.O

4. My partner is usually interested in hearing my views on things.
T.O
F.O

5. I really enjoy discussing things with my partner.
T.O
F.O

6. My partner is one of my best friends.
T.O
F.O

7. I think my partner would consider me a very close friend.
O
O

8. We love just talking to each other.
T.O
F.O

9. When we go out, the time goes very quickly.
T.O
F.O

10. We always have a lot to say to each other.
T.O
F.O

11. We have a lot of fun together in our everyday lives.
T.O
F.O

12. We are spiritually very compatible.
O
O

13. We tend to share the same basic values in life.
T.O
F.O

14. We like to spend time together in similar ways.
T.O
F.O

15. We really have a lot of interests in common.
T.O
F.O

16. We have many of the same dreams and life goals.
T.O
F.O

17. We like to do a lot of the same things.
O
O

18. Even though our interests are somewhat different, I enjoy my partner’s interests.
T.O
F.O

19. Whatever we do together we usually tend to have a good time.
T.O
F.O

20. My partner tells me when he or she has had a bad day.
T.O
F.O


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