Do you find yourself doubting your reality and questioning your intuitiveness?
The following checklist is adapted from S-Anon, a Twelve-Step group for partners of sex addicts:
Have you felt hurt or embarrassed by your
spouse’s sexual conduct?
Have you secretly searched for clues about
your spouse’s sexual behavior?
Have you lied about or covered up your
spouse’s sexual conduct?
Have you had money problems because of your
spouse’s sexual behavior?
Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by
someone you loved and trusted?
Are you afraid to upset your spouse for fear
that he or she will leave you?
Have you tried to control your spouse’s sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively or
being sexual with him or her in order to keep him or her from being sexual with others?
Have you given into sex to try to keep peace
in a relationship?
Have you tried to convince yourself that your
spouse’s sexual thoughts and behavior shouldn’t bother you?
Have you doubted your attractiveness, your
emotions and your sanity?
Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not
knowing about your spouse’s acting out behavior?Have you engaged in uncomfortable, unwanted
or physically dangerou sexual behavior?
Has your preoccupation with your spouse’s
sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationships with your children, your co-workers
and/or other friends or family members?
Have you neglected your physical and/or
emotional health while in a relationship?
Have you blamed other people, such as friends
or sexual partners, society in general, his or her job, religion or birth family for your spouse’s sexual behavior? Have you felt confused about what is true when talking with your spouse about his or her sexual thoughts or behavior? Have you
avoided painful emotions by using drugs, alcohol or food or by being too busy?
Do you find dealing with your spouse’s sexual
behavior or mood swings makes you feel crazy?
The following checklist is adapted from S-Anon, a Twelve-Step group for partners of sex addicts:
Have you felt hurt or embarrassed by your
spouse’s sexual conduct?
Have you secretly searched for clues about
your spouse’s sexual behavior?
Have you lied about or covered up your
spouse’s sexual conduct?
Have you had money problems because of your
spouse’s sexual behavior?
Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by
someone you loved and trusted?
Are you afraid to upset your spouse for fear
that he or she will leave you?
Have you tried to control your spouse’s sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively or
being sexual with him or her in order to keep him or her from being sexual with others?
Have you given into sex to try to keep peace
in a relationship?
Have you tried to convince yourself that your
spouse’s sexual thoughts and behavior shouldn’t bother you?
Have you doubted your attractiveness, your
emotions and your sanity?
Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not
knowing about your spouse’s acting out behavior?Have you engaged in uncomfortable, unwanted
or physically dangerou sexual behavior?
Has your preoccupation with your spouse’s
sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationships with your children, your co-workers
and/or other friends or family members?
Have you neglected your physical and/or
emotional health while in a relationship?
Have you blamed other people, such as friends
or sexual partners, society in general, his or her job, religion or birth family for your spouse’s sexual behavior? Have you felt confused about what is true when talking with your spouse about his or her sexual thoughts or behavior? Have you
avoided painful emotions by using drugs, alcohol or food or by being too busy?
Do you find dealing with your spouse’s sexual
behavior or mood swings makes you feel crazy?
